When the Challenges are from others
You may have to face several types of challenges in your interracial marriage, especially from people outside your family circle. Your stern determination and presence of mind will help you overcome the hurdles. Your discussions with one another can have a positive effect on your interracial relationships.
Some challenges you sometimes have to face:
Hostility and intimidation go together like oil and a lamp.
Some derogatory comments from some sides may cause serious trouble in your marriage.
Whispers, stares and insults are three things you need to prepare for in your challenge.
You may feel a sense of isolation.
Rejection from your family, even though not happening at present, may shock you.
Challenges from one another’s beliefs in life may compel you to accept interracial marriage, even though you know you may face possible difficulties in the future. The attraction for an interracial marriage may pave the way for the distraction of your beliefs. Understand the fact that there may be many hurdles in your life to face.
Be an experienced person to lead a peaceful life. Your love for one another will be a cause to annihilate all your challenges in your interracial marriage. Trying to develop and use effective communication skills between you and your partner may help you in making the possible challenges less severe than you expected.
What about your children?
Your mixed identity needs a constant appreciation from both of you, or else your children may have a bad impression of your beliefs, making life more miserable. Let your children hear all the family histories from you. Let they grow with a bold mind.
Listen to the words of your children. Try to answer the entire question they ask you about their concerns, stereotypes, possible prejudices and doubts.
At the Time of Holidays
Have you experienced any stress during the holidays? If you answered “No”, then you are trying to cover up the truth. Talking about your cultural differences when you were a child may help in presenting them in their true state. Do not try to ignore your history.
When considering all the facts of your interracial marriage, you have to think about yourself, and your weaknesses. Try to correct them as fast as you can. If you still feel confusion about your own life, then the best thing is to try to handle all your issues before entering the interracial marriage.
Know Your Differences
Try to discuss your cultural differences that may affect your marriage. Religion, finance, sex, diet, birth control, parenting preference, extended family relationships, etc. are some subjects likely to come under discussion.
Just the reason that you are from interracial marriage does not play a part in your failure of a good married life. It is your ability and determination to challenge the newly coming problems arising out of interracial marriage.
There are some prominent roles for you to play to help bridge the gap with your in-laws. They can learn how the interracial marriage should be. However the efficiency to manage all the problems satisfactorily really depends on you and your spouse. A word from your in-laws should not impact on the poor health of your marriage.